Happiness is a Warm Gun

Sometimes, you could not see it but it was there. Slightly in every face you see, it sparked from your chin, your lips, your eyes: kindness. RJ Palacio in his novel 'Wonder'  (the one that recently being on screen, directed by 'the' Chbosky) said: always try to be kinder than is necessary. I tried to understand how the hell people could do that? Then, when I saw it myself, in every tiny fracture moment that never a thing on the earth could make it be perfect. Like Beatles said in one of their song: Happiness is a Warm Gun. So is tiny fracture moment.

But that night, or every other night, the heart opened instantly, the eyes burst in the loop when I had the moment: the moment to have, and to hold, that every good person would watch out for each other and take care of each other. That feeling I always catched everytime I saw my girls went down the aisle with whom they will spend the rest of their life with. Because, oh dear, life is always terrible, people suck, adulting was way worse, but if we could simply have and hold to those tiny moments, those happiest moments in our life, we would be fine. More than fine. Look at those girls, who always being kind than is necessary. Knowing that  we carry the same concept of seeing life, understanding sometimes the very choice we shot was not the best one, but we were and we would always be in their sight and gaze...to make more those tiny fracture moments: that night we looked up each other, laughing at each other, passing a gaze only we would understand; "We need to be kinder than is necessary, but some asshole would not get that, they would never get that...so making sarcastic joke is definitely allowed."

12 years passed, nothing had changed except how wise we were from time to time and number of errors that could not stop coming to our way. For time we spent with people we loved that made it unforgettable...that made them valuable. There was always people (out of sudden) who took the icebox when somebody else was trying so hard to make the drinks cold for them. There was always people who did not understand what we thought, what we did, or why we did it. But there always a few. And life put you through hardest time to find 'the few'. People keep forgetting that everything was possible, including leaving for icebox and made the 'cup people' feeling left out, but these girls never forgot it. Years by years, through drama, romantic comedy, (sometimes) thriller, and kind of arthouse films, these girls stood. Still, as of the few.

A wedding, to us, was like a memorial of what was happiness. But a marriage, to the bride and groom? It would be the longest marathon they would ever have. You knew at first you wanted to do it, you got tired, you wanted to stop, you were questioning about why did you do it at the first place? But in the end, in the very end you would know that nothing would beat the feeling of keep your legs moving, to reach finish line...together. To prove yourself of what you were capable of...with a partner.

In other saying, like to us personally, like the speech how we've known the bride or how did me met the groom? Everything was whirled up on our mind and we kept trying to remember but we failed. We couldn't remember when or where or how...but we never forgot how did it feel to see the bride standing perfectly with the groom...than we smiled: what is a wedding without a realization that it came hand in hand with a little defect, a flaw? That nothing was perfect, like the speech? Well, that was just another simple thing that could happened but... how we carried each other's flaw that made us, us. Like the laugh...in the middle of the speech that said: "Ex..." which meant to say "ex...pression" or the long speech that shrinked in a moment because the nervous attack, or everything that happened in between...could be a joke we laughed together in the future. That was life, and it was funny, sadly funny, ironically laughable, somewhat it was.

So here's to you, the bride:

Cheers to the girl who could turn every sarcastic comment into terrible joke, yet we could not have it enough to laugh at those.

Cheers to the girl who could make the coolest icebreakers I've known.

Cheers to the girl who give no damn about anything, who never put her nose into other's bussiness and keep herself at what's her aiming for.

Cheers to the girl who values family over anything in her life.

Cheers to the friend whom we love, cheers to the best girl who sets her goals higher and higher in running, as well in life.

Here's to boudless blessing we could receive from the Universe. To you, to us, to all kind people...

With love,
Jessy Ismoyo